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The colour of feelings

added: 17. October 2013 | blogger: Darricau Joëlle | no. of comments: 0 | views: 1804

The colour of feelings

As leaders, you need to be very skilled in coping every day with a high-pressure work environment. To do so, you have managed to considerably gear your EGO to optimize your rational decision-making abilities and your strategies to better control your environment. You are convinced it is the only way for you to be successful. Admittedly, you spend your days doing your best to motivate your teams, attract new customers and keep them satisfied by designing and implementing business processes to reach quantified, profitable targets. That’s what your job is all about.

But what would happen if one evening after work you suddenly decided to stop checking your emails and answering late calls from your customers and colleagues? What would happen if you just took some time out to be all alone without any kin or friends, television or internet? You would find yourself in a silent void, face to face with yourself. That is when you might start seeing the color of feelings: indigo for anger and sadness, purple for longing to be loved, and blue for the fear of death. Looking yourself in the face without any pretense would let that little inner voice be heard. “Do you realize that you are fooling yourself? Do you really trust yourself? Do you actually like the person you have become? Do you really know who you are? Are you willing to discover the hidden part of yourself you so are afraid of?”

Your EGO, that idealized image of yourself you have created, would fall to pieces. You would feel a strong pain deep down in your chest. Your heart would start racing. You would get flustered, panicky, and anxiety-stricken. Your affects would spring up on you and say, “Listen to what your ID is telling you, listen to what you’ve been trying not to feel all day long, be quiet and listen to your emotions. They are telling you they cannot stand the way you are holding them in any longer, because you have been doing that for so long that your greatest creative powers have dwindled away, you have lost that touch of eccentricity which gives you the strength to feel enthusiastic, and you are turning into a nobody, just like the others – horribly humdrum.”

Why are people so good at dismissing their feelings? It is because feelings can make you feel weak, and a manager must not look weak or admit to his weakness. Leaders have to look self-confident and show they are as demanding with themselves as they are with other people by staying in full control whatever the situation is. In the modern world we live in, feelings are no longer desirable since they are not thought to make us more efficient. On the contrary, people imagine they will lose momentum and hamper their projects if they give into their feelings.

But couldn’t those dynamics be reversed?

What if you began to accept your imperfections, your weak points and your fears? What if you considered these aspects of your personality to be part of what makes you special so that you grew closer to your real self, more in phase with your inner self?

Wouldn’t that make you stronger instead?

Wouldn’t it help you glow yellow with joy, green with hope, and red with love so that you could communicate that positive energy the people around you need?

Of course, you have recognized the colors of the rainbow (1). Isn’t the rainbow the calm after the storm? Doesn’t it shine when the heavy air has been cleansed? Isn’t it as if the burden of the way of life you had always taken for granted because you were sure it was the only one had been lifted at last? Isn’t it telling you that the colors of feelings are the crucial point you share with the other people and with Mother Nature? Isn’t it there to remind you that you are a human being, too? Isn’t it telling you not to forget that feelings and emotions are the key to loving oneself and others, to “knowing how to give”, and to “accepting to receive”?

(1) The color orange in the rainbow r


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